Love is patient, people are not. Loving someone does not mean that you will never be upset with them or that they will never be upset with you. Loving someone means that you are always trying to show patience, not that you are already a master of having patience. Show love by showing patience. In those moments when it seems impossible and all patience is lost, step back and re-group. Come back to the situation when you have more calm understanding and knowledge that you are an equal contender. You will be pleasantly surprise of the patience that can bring out of the one you love toward you. So while love is patient, remember that people have to work on it.
When people are in love they want everyone to know it! Humans truly in love (especially women) cannot keep their mouth's shut! This is a good and healthy thing. If someone is wanting to keep a secret relationship it is because they do not want to keep a healthy relationship. Why do you think there are so many love songs? Because we love being in love and want to share it. So, don't be date number 3 or the secret love affair if you are looking for a meaningful relationship with real love and gratification in it. Demand a love that wants to claim you.
Love knows when to say no. "No" does not have to be a mean word. Parents who love their children say no to teach and to protect. If your child is about to run in the street in front of a car, you scream "no" to save their lives and then to teach them of the danger they are in. Friends who love friends say no to protect them from physical and emotional pain. Spouses even have to say no to help protect parts of their marriage with honesty. If you disagree on a subject, tell them! Saying "no" occasionally is a good thing. Especially on major issues. If you feel you always have to say yes to the ones you love it is probably because you fear they don't love you enough to hear you say no. Don't send your relationships out in front of a moving car. Say "no" in the important times and help save all of your relationships and protect your love.
My great-grandma always said to find someone who loves you more than you love them. This confused me when I was young. I couldn't understand why you would ever want to be so mean as to marry someone you didn't love equally. As I have gotten older and examined my own relationship, I can see what she meant. So often, people fall so hard and quickly in love with someone who doesn't share the same amount of love for them. When you are putting everything of yourself into a relationship with someone who isn't putting all of them self into the relationship you are going to end up tired and hurt. If it feels like your partner maybe loves you a bit more than you love them, chances are it is because they are showing you how much they love you. I am sure in this healthy type of relationship, both partners probably feel as though the other loves them a bit more.
